Relationship Speaker and Author Roland Hinds

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Are You The Right One For Me? Whose Choice Is It Anyway?

 

Content:

I. About The Author ........................................................ vii

II. Acknowledgement ......................................................... xi

III. Introduction ................................................................ xiii

IV. Disclaimers ................................................................... xv

Part 1. Cleaning Out Your Emotional Closet .................... 1

Chapter 1: Starting Over .......................................................... 3
Chapter 2: Examining Self - Getting to Know “I” Again .......... 11

Part 2. Getting To Know You ...................................... 19
Chapter 3: Is He or She “Mr. or Ms. Right” or “Mr. or Ms. Right Now?” ......................................................... 21
Chapter 4: What’s My Type? .................................................. 29
Chapter 5: The Honeymoon Stage .......................................... 35

Part 3. Taking It To The Next Level .............................. 45

Chapter 6: Culture vs. Religion ............................................... 47
Chapter 7: Crossing the Imaginary Line .................................. 59
Chapter 8: Keeping It Sexy After Sex ...................................... 63
Chapter 9: The Formula of “Co” = Cohabitation, Co-Mingling Assets, and Communication .............. 73
Chapter 10: Blended Families ................................................... 83

Part 5. Let’s Get Married! ........................................... 91

Chapter 11: Checks and Balance ............................................... 93
Chapter 12: Will You Marry Me? ............................................ 99

References: ................................................................ 101

Quick Order Form ....................................................... 103

About The Author (Excerpt)

My journey into human sexuality and relationships started when I was a youth. I had a huge interest in understanding how relationships worked and how people interacted sexually. Even though I was not sure what sex was at the time, I grew up in an era when “free love” was popular. Many people were engaging in sexual relationships without caution of the effects of catching a communicable disease.

Naturally, this “free love” brought about a lot of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as, gonorrhea, syphilis and pubic lice. During this time, penicillin was prescribed frequently to fight the many forms of STDs, which was spreading rapidly throughout the United States.

After committing three years to write this book, I have learned a lot about myself, and how to listen better and have more patience in a relationship. I realized the significance of being connected to your mate and coping with the past. I also had to learn how to deal with traumatic issues, which altered my behavior and ultimately sabotaged my relationship.

Acknowledgement (Excerpt)

Finally, to all of the people whom I have met in many parts of the world throughout my 20 years prior to writing this book, I appreciate all of your stories, because without everyone sharing their life’s experience this book would not have been possible. To the many I say: gracias, gratsi, merci and thank you?

Introduction (Excerpt)

Many people enter into relationships everyday without a road map or any expectations about what they would like to receive from their relationship. Most young people often begin dating as early as junior high school, but are not typically prepared for what’s ahead. This is the time when some youth can get robbed of their purity and innocence developing negative behavioral patterns and bad dating habits.

Almost everyone will be subjected to a failed relationship at one time or another in his or her life, despite the goal to be successful.  The key is how one recovers from the ordeal and move forward.  When true love is involved, breaking up can be a traumatizing experience, rearing many ugly heads.

How do you cope and start over again with a better outlook?

 

 

 Chapter 1: Starting Over

This is all new to me!
Have I changed as a person?
What are my likes and dislikes post my previous relationship?
Has the game changed since I have been gone?

If you are new to the dating world and are unsure about the protocol, reading this book can serve as a great road map to engaging in a rewarding relationship. The road map will consist of learning about yourself and determining if you have the right person in your life. Reading this book will assist you in working through your kinks, so you will be prepared for the real thing.

Then there is the other side of dating, which consist of severing a dating relationship or divorcing your spouse and having to start the process over again. Like most, after ending a relationship, you are probably telling yourself you will never fall in love again -swearing off any notions of entertaining another relationship until someone says, “Hello” to you. But, are you really ready to go for it again?

Pump your brakes and restart your engine, but with more sense.

Ask yourself: Have you taken responsibility for what occurred in your previous relationships? Have you broken some of your old habits?

Habits are formed behaviors that develop from the time we are youths, which cultivate who we are as people. The most common behavior people often speak about is their “bad habits,” such as smoking, drinking or spending too much money. Not all habits are meant to be “bad.” However behavioral modification may be needed to reduce reoccurring common mistakes like, breaking old habits.


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Are You The Right One For Me? Whose Choice Is It Anyway?

Try something different and prepare for your future relationship beforehand so that you can fully enjoy the new person who will come into your life in the future. Make your new journey an experience of self-discovery, while emerging yourself to the next level of your life.

Question: Since your last relationship, have you changed as a person? If so, how?